Beauty is a feeling: a personal post on why one bride cancelled her wedding make-up artist
You will probably recognise today’s guest blogger, she’s one of my lovely TNWC Real Brides, Emma, who is sharing all her wedding planning experiences with us. She recently emailed me a blog post she’d written about her experience of her wedding make-up trial as she felt it might strike a chord with some of my other bride-to-be readers. And I think it will.
I also wanted to extend an invitation to any other brides-to-be out there, like Emma, who’ve had positive or negative experiences during their wedding planning and want to share them with others – you are welcome to write them up and pop them in an email to me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will try and feature them here on the blog.
Over to Emma…
Beauty Is A Feeling
I wanted to share with you all my experience of my make up trial and why I decided to cancel having a professional make up artist on the day, leaving me out of pocket.
I always thought that having my make up done on my wedding day would be a real treat as I so rarely wear make up and thought it would be nice to feel and look glamorous. Every bride wants to look their best on their wedding as so much attention is focused onto you and there is a little pressure to look better than you would on any other day, which is why I thought professional make up would make me look ‘more like a bride.’
I booked a trial with a local make-up artist and was looking forward to having a girly time trying out different looks. When I arrived at the studio I explained that I rarely wear much more than a bit of mascara and some tinted moisturiser and that I wanted to look really natural but have my features enhanced. The make up artist started by tweaking my brows, which turned into a full on overhaul with wax, threading and trimming with scissors… I was a little worried as I quite like my eyebrows to be natural but I trusted the make up artist as she has an excellent portfolio and is clearly very talented.
She then threaded my upper lip, which again I wasn’t prepared for – I know I have a soft downy hair on my upper lip, like many women do but being fair haired I never wanted to interfere with nature and encourage a full blown Mexican tash!
I then had my make up applied. It looked beautiful and enhanced my features as I had asked and my skin looked flawless, BUT I didn’t look like me. More to the point I didn’t feel like me and therefore didn’t feel confident or beautiful. Yes my eyes looked more sultry, my skin more even and my brows more symmetrical and refined (a little too refined for my liking) but to me beauty is not looking flawless.
I like my freckles and that I have one dimple and a slightly wonky smile. I don’t mind having a slightly peachy fuzz on my upper lip and nor does my husband to be. He likes me best when I have first woken up, rumpled hair with creases on my face; he doesn’t notice the tiny broken veins on my cheeks and I have grown to accept them as part of me.
I walked away feeling very strange (and a little sore) and questioned whether I wanted to look ‘like a bride’, whatever that is anyway, or just like me. So I did what any girl in my situation would do and went for tea and biscuits with my Mum. We discussed how I felt and I came to the conclusion that beauty is a feeling not the way you look.
I may have looked immaculate for the camera but I didn’t feel beautiful – surely it is better to feel nice than look nice? I took the plunge and contacted the make up artist to cancel.
I have decided to do my own make up, the way I have always done it. Light and barely-there with maybe a little bit of cheeky eyeliner. I just hope my eyebrows grow back in time :)
A huge thank you to Emma for sharing her experience here on The Natural Wedding Company blog – I hope that her shared experience will help other brides-to-be who are worried about how they look and feel on their wedding day.
Images: Rebecca Roundhill